"You're unique and special and there is no one else in the world like you."

"If you're one in a million, then in China, there are at least a thousand of you."

It's official.  I am not the only "Dae Yu" who has a presence in the interwebs.

Dae, I'd like to introduce you to Dae.  Be kind to yourself.

I know at least one commonality between us:  We both love cars.
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How well do you know yourself?

If a manager comes to you and says "Thanks for the work you did on that project.  I really appreciate it.  I have some ideas for the next project we can talk about that might help improve the finished product for the next customer."

Versus a manager who comes you and says "That sucked.  I think the customer was BARELY satisfied and that means I was NOT HAPPY at all with your work. The customer needs to be extremely satisfied at all times.  You have A LOT of work to do if you're going to do better on the next project."

Then which manager do you think you would want to have?

Statistically speaking (with a significantly large sample size), one approach does tend to do a better job of "managing", aka "coaching".  And so a manager can either play the numbers and go with what is proven to work better, but the more effective (and much, much harder) approach is to customize the message the manager deems appropriate for the recipient.  If you’re bad a reading people, then your coaching success rate could end up being horrible.

And going back to the original question.  Do you really know yourself well enough to truly know which type of feedback works the best with you?
My bet is you don't.  And that's what makes it all so difficult, and challenging, and cathartic, and rewarding in the end.

I was inspired to tweet after listening to this Corner Office interview of Peter Kim.

marketplace.org with Kai Ryssdal

hi1 @kairyssdal for Peter Kim interview: i really enjoyed it.  but you missed one question for him.  cc @RadioBabe

hi2 @kairyssdal for Peter Kim interview: what kind of premium denim will you make in the internment camps in Montana? cc @RadioBabe

hi3 @kairyssdal for Peter Kim interview: will U.S. citizens of NK heritage be allowed due process... @RadioBabe

hi4 @kairyssdal for Peter Kim interview: ...before the internment camps if we actively continue war with NK? cc @RadioBabe

hi5 @kairyssdal for Peter Kim interview: during Obama ppl bought guns like crazy b4 laws that might take them away got passed cc @RadioBabe

hi6 @kairyssdal for Peter Kim interview: after Obama maybe ppl will buy guns like crazy to defend themselves from government cc @RadioBabe

hi7 @kairyssdal for Peter Kim interview: endgame is that it's ALWAYS good to be arms+ammo manufacturer cc @RadioBabe #tonystark

I am @LuggageDonkey #140characterHELL